Laws of Attraction

Anyone familiar with the Tinder format will understand that our subsequent perusals are coloured by an understanding that our first few suggestions have, more likely than not, liked us first (or ‘swiped-right’). Ancient attraction wisdom says that we are drawn more to those who show little interest in us, but the following presents evidence firmly to the contrary. In stark contrast with this commonly accepted rule, we inexplicably find ourselves sympathising with potential matches we would have previously discarded- purely because we think they have liked us first. After all, they like you, so they must have great taste. Are we really that shallow that we drop our standards in the face of acceptance, blinded by the shining halo? Its a possibility, but there may be other forces at work here. Not knowing one hundred percent whether they have liked us, it can become an exercise in self-validation and curiosity, ‘I don’t really like this person, but do they like me?’, It’s a small cost to find out. And for those of you who think they are above this egocentricity and shallowness, I propose stop using an app in which you rate people merely on a photo.